that i like this girl. i told him shes relgious and our type of muslim (sunni) and follows the 5 pillars of islam. i told him because islam says when you like someone, tell your adults and i did so. now heres the problem, he doesnt have anything against her religious wise, he has a problem with her being pakistani.. because were indian and pakistani and indians have been fighting for 60 years. i told him why take marriage to race? he said that when the whites beat you in canada one day, you will have to go back to india. SIDE NOTE: pakistanis arent allowed to be in india and indians arent allowed to be in pakistan. so he i told him that its wrong for him to say that and he said this is how the world is. then i just said okay and was really upset just sitting there at juma prayer listening to the speech. he saw my upset face and said, you can marry her, but you will have to face the concequences that will happen with you. i told him im ready to face anything to be with her and he was then saying your too young, right now your thinking shes the one but later on you will think how stupid you were on thinking shes the one. he even made fun of pakistanis saying everyone hates them and their culture is ‘stupid’ i told him to stop being racist and he said okay. he doesnt want me to marry her but he will let me marry her. i only told him and not my mom because my mom will take this the wrong way. advise please?
jazakallah khair, salaam
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Allah created us in various nations and tribes in order that we may know each other and not despise each other. That is in the Quran sura 49:13.
Your fathers arguments have no basis. he is just being hateful and un-Islamic. He also seems very negative, “when the whites beat you?”. Trust in Allah and tell him that you care about her and you are not doing anything wrong by wanting to marry her.
@ Fuzzy – I think then your dad only has an issue with Pakistanis. So you may want to sit dont and have a conversation with him about why he feels the way he does. Whay he reacts so badly to pakistanis. It may be due to a bad personal experience. talk it out with him and I’m sure you can find a solution. And remind him that the girl you are wanting to marry did not create his past.
Theirs No room for Racism in Islam <3
My Dad doesn’t care Who I marry as Long as he is Muslim.
My Mom Is Racist in way
May Allah Guide her.
Teach Your Parents about the deen Properly, and
Get into the topic about Arrogance,Racism.
Theirs alot of Quran Verses and Tons of hadiths About arrogance andRacismm.
Just go ahead and marry her. The feuding between your two peoples seems to have no real reason to continue… I mean, from an American stand point, it started because of religious differences. If you are both Muslim, then go ahead, and become married.
Maybe I do not understand why your people seem to hate each other, but to me, it seems foolish for you two to let it get in the way.
Have u ever heard of the the Sania Mirza, the Indian tennis players and Shoaib Malik, The Pakistani Cricketer’s wedding? An Indian married a Pakistani..! Idk what ur dads up to and why being a Muslim he hates Pakistani Muslims alot, they are Muslims as well aren’t they?
just go with your heart man. it may not be what others want but its what you want, you cant live life trying to please everyone im finding that the hard way.
and who gives a sh*t about where shes from or what she believes love is love and you cant stop that.
good luck getting your parents to understand!
That’s stupid…
race has nothing to do with it… and pakistanis can go to india and indians can go to pakistan…
that’s rubish talk… if you like her then marry her… race has nothing to do with anything.
well thats how parents think ! lol…
you should feel lucky that your dad finally agreed.
and im sure you’ll have NO problems in future ! – inshaAllah
He does need to stop being racist… Race isnt an issue.. However.. your religious differences might be. But if you two can compromise and be happy then go for it. Good luck:-)
Pakistani people aren’t muslim
every 1 out of 2 Pakis are gang members
My mum is Indian and my mum is Pakistani and they have been married for over 25 years. My mum has been to Pakistan numerous times before and nobody has ever had a problem with it. I also know many other people who have mixed Indian and Pakistani marriages and they always seem to work out fine.
Tell your dad that the world has changed a lot and the problems that used to happen in the past are no longer here these days. As long as she is muslim then everyone is likely to accept her for who she is. These days even white and black people are happily welcomed into families and so her being Pakistani should be no major problem.
Tell him that you love each other and you don’t care what other people think or say about you. If Pakistan and India don’t except you then so be it, as long as you love each other and your families accept each other then that’s all that matters. There will always be racism and hatred, sometimes even in the same country between different castes and sects. You just have to look past the idiots who are setting out to cause trouble. I hope that Insha’Allah your families will accept each other and you will have a long and happy future together.
[Edit] It seems that your dad has a bad perception of all Pakistani’s and I agree that there are a lot of messed up pakistani’s but there are messed up people in every culture. Its like non muslims thinking that all muslims are terrorists. Explain it to him like that so he understands what kind of wrong judgement he is making. Once he gets to know her family i’m sure he will be a lot more comfortable about the matter, when he see’s that not all pakistani’s are as bad as he thinks they are.
I’ve always been under the impression that Pakistanis and Indians are the same race. Didn’t the British Empire divide their two countries based on religion and sent the majority of the Muslims to Pakistan and the Hindus and other religions remained in India.(it used to all be India at one point).
I don’t see a problem here. Perhaps your father is not aware of the reasons why India split up.
I think from a point,your dad is right,since,your young,how old are you?
do you understand the meaning of love at that age?!
When you grow up,you’ll be smarter,wiser,and can choose whats good for you.
From another point he shouldn’t be that racist,and should respect all races.
What he said to you is right,that he doesn’t want you to NOT marry her,he agreed but you should be responsible and face the consequences.
His just trying to act as a good father.
Salam
My friend is a indian muslim and his wife is a pakistani muslim, they have been married for 5years and have two beautiful kids, they have a happy marriage, They met each other in UK and married in Pakistan, they know live in uk but time to time visit both India and Pakistan.
Also a lot of Pakistani and indian Muslims marry each other and can live in India or Pakistan without any problem.
I think your dad is only thinking about whats best for you and talk to him again and i think he will agree to your marriage if it makes you happy. In my friends case his wife dad did not want her to marry a indian muslim but once he saw how strong their love was for each other he agreed to it.
Edit: lol @ asker sounds like a movie, maybe it does sound like a movie but it is 100% true… maybe bollyeood should make a film onit.